“No” is one of the most powerful words in the English language. Learn how to say no to others, and you start saying yes to you. – Samantha Wilson
If you say yes and agree to anything you don’t want to do or don’t have the energy to do, you say no to yourself. By saying yes to the things you don’t want to do, you are the person who loses out.
I struggled to say no to people for years. If I didn’t want to do something, I would give vague answers and then duck and disappear or end up with a task I really didn’t want or couldn’t do. I’ve learnt that giving vague messages creates bad situations, and eventually I realised that I had to start saying no.
At first, I would say no and then give a reason to explain myself. The second lesson learned was that I didn’t need to explain myself. No is a complete sentence. By explaining myself, I gave the other person room to try to talk me around, which made the situation worse.
In situations where someone was trying to sell me something, I developed a firm but kind no thank you.
I found that my relationships with other people vastly improved. I was clearly communicating for the first time, and it made such a difference. I no longer take on tasks or responsibilities that I don’t want to do, and in general, people respected me more.
In some situations, the other person would pressure me or act aggressively. As I help my line, people would either respect my no and, if not, I had to end friendships or relationships or limit the amount of time in their company. I couldn’t be responsible for their reactions, and my priority was myself.
So, when you learn to say no, every no is a big yes to you!
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